Coming soon: How to lead funerals, memorial services, and celebrations of life.

Nobody looks forward to leading funerals. But when a friend or family member asks for your help, it’s hard to say “no”. You can do it. Your words and actions will help family and friends give meaning to this life. And this book will help you find those words, even if you’ve never done this … Continue reading Coming soon: How to lead funerals, memorial services, and celebrations of life.

The most important lesson for a funeral service.

I've done words for a long time. I've been around funerals and memorial services for a long time, too. I want to give you a lesson that I am constantly telling myself because I keep forgetting it.  Here's the lesson: people forget what you say.  You can offer the best words, the clearest outline, the … Continue reading The most important lesson for a funeral service.

Honest funeral messages.

A funeral message is a place for respect and for integrity. It’s a place to acknowledge a person’s actual humanness and God’s actual grace. With a heart toward the healing of the family and friends, we can gently describe what we know. Elliot’s daughter found a little peace in the honest description of the dad who abandoned her and the Father who didn’t.

A conversation with kids about death.

I think they were nine and twelve. But I’m terrible with figuring out the ages of kids, and I’ve decided that asking isn’t helpful. Instead, I start listening and start talking and calibrate my vocabulary and concepts to the responses I’m getting.  Thirty feet away, through an open door, a public hallway, and a closed … Continue reading A conversation with kids about death.