This list was started to support a webinar presentation on providing pastoral care during a time of quarantine. It will be updated regularly. My premises: God is in the room […]
Life – and death – continue. Having just written about how to lead funerals and memorial services – and working in the hospital – we’re getting questions about what happens […]
When there’s no hope of recovery, how do you recover hope? You and I both know that question, I’m guessing. I wrestle with it regularly as a hospital chaplain. When […]
I’ve done words for a long time. I’ve been around funerals and memorial services for a long time, too. I want to give you a lesson that I am constantly […]
What if you and four friends said, “No one is eating alone after a funeral. Churches have meals for members. We’re going to offer meals to families who don’t have churches.” And you became known as the people who were there in the hardest moments of life, not with answers but with presence. What if you provided potluck and pie?
If you've sat with a family in an emergency room, you've faced hard questions. And you've struggled to figure out the way to navigate hope and despair. It doesn't matter if you are a chaplain or a pastor or a friend that showed up in a hard time. You get questions and you have to answer. Sometimes, it sounds like this.
I think they were nine and twelve. But I’m terrible with figuring out the ages of kids, and I’ve decided that asking isn’t helpful. Instead, I start listening and start […]
Adriel Booker wrote this for pastors who want to care for parents after miscarriage. What parents need from pastors after a miscarriage 1. Make time for grieving parents as early […]
Before considering what to do to be helpful, Gavin Ortland suggests four things NOT to do. (Read the full article at “How not to help a sufferer.”) In summary, his […]
I’m sorry. Nothing: (Sixty seconds of silence) May I take care of that? (and take the tissue out of their hands and give them a fresh one and throw it […]
In the last hours and minutes of people’s lives, laying in hospital and hospice beds, we often hear the question, “Can they hear us?” Chaplains and nurses often say, “Yes. […]
People often say, “I wish I had told them I loved them” the last time they spoke with their loved one. Instead of worrying about the last conversation, consider remembering […]
Jason’s book is How Trees Deal with Loss.
I used to say, “I’m sorry for your loss” when I was in moments of deep pain and death. I’m adding a new phrase. “This is hard.” Let me tell […]